Miscarriage Support - Scottish Care & Information on Miscarriage

on June 28,2010 I went to the E.R with excessive vaginal bleeding( blot clots)I was told I was having a miscarriage and that I was 10 weeks old I had a D/C and a blood transfusion. I name my baby Charly since I didn't know the sex of the baby. I had previously done 3 pregnacy test but were all negative, so when my period came IT DIDN'T cross my mind. I do remember craving food I wouldn't normally eat or drink, like plain milk I was drinking 3-4 cups per day. Doctors assume I became pregnant in mid April and was due January 2011. Sadly my fiance was arrested for drunk driving in May. The thing is that I've manage to stay strong, but yesterday I drank plain milk and I felt grossed out by the taste and since then sadness has taken over me, I hold back from crying because the milk reminded me of how real my pregnancy was and I couldn't recognized it, maybe if I had I wouldn't of lost my baby :(

Hello to everyone on here, and I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. I hope that each day brings with it more calm and comfort for you all.
I lost my baby at 13 weeks, a month ago tomorrow. I fell pregnant very quickly in a new relationship and that relationship has all but disintegrated as a result of the miscarriage.
I found it impossible to communicate and share with my partner, as I felt quite a selfish ownership over the physical loss I was going through. It really didn't help that he was mostly concerned with reassurances about the future of our very new relationship, rather than being interested in what I was going through.
Has anyone else had a relationship break down because of a miscarriage? If so, how have you dealt with that? I am struggling so hard with the feelings of physical and emotional loss of my baby, that I don't know how I could have kept a hold of my partner better at such a raw time. I feel a duty to maintain some kind of relationship with him, but I just don't know how.
Love and comfort to you all x

I've just come across this site on a sleepless night after miscarriage. i was taken in for an early scan just 2weeks ago and all was fine. my follow up scan was monday and was told that sac was there but baby not,but not to panic as could be hiding. its only thursday and fully miscarried. was hoping for a miracle as was our first ever baby but its gone and feel very empty sad angry upset and desperate to try again. i just don't understand what went wrong! one day it will get better and easier,i know that,but just don't know when.

I just came across the website and I have found it very comforting reading your stories it has helped me try to come to terms with my loss, knowing that I am not the only one going through this.
our miscarriage has been happening for a while now, I started spotting during my 6 week then we got a scan, luckily there was a heartbeat so we thought everything would ok but on the 8 week I woke up to find the sheets had blood on them, at the hospital the next day the scan found there wasn’t any heartbeat but the baby was still there, I have to go in for D and C on Friday, I don’t understand why this is happening to me, I have had three healthy pregnancy in tha past. Everyone keeps telling that sometimes miscarriage just happens for no reason and that I can try again in time
I am not really sure how to feel or act right now; I can’t believe that I am not pregnant any more and that I will never get to see my baby.
My partner has been supportive and I already have three wonderful children so I should be happy but I am not, I just want my baby back.

I just came across this website, I miscarried my baby at 7.00 am this morning, although I probably knew mid last week that this was coming I tried to stay positive.
I am devastated, I can't believe this time last week my husband and I were so happy, having tried to conceive for some time, we were over joyed when I got a positive pregnancy result.
I was 5 weeks pregnant, I am 36 and lost my last baby to miscarriage too.
Went to doctors on Friday as I had excruciating back pain with some cramps and brown spotting, she was going to organise an early scan, but I ended up at A and E yesterday, when fresh red blood started to appear when I wiped.
I spent yesterday in bed waiting for the inevitable, I feel absolutely empty, alone, upset, scared and angry.
I really don't know what to do and don't think I can cope with this, my baby would have been due on Xmas day and I was so excited and now everywhere I look everyone I know has had or is having a baby.
It just seems so unfair, I don't know what I did wrong I just want my baby back.

i lost my baby 8days ago and really strugling too understand why i have 2 healthy boys and keep wondering if i did something wrong. everyone just keeps saying it was,nt meant too be and you can try again but i want my baby.iam still very sore and its starting too take its toll iam not sleeping well keep dreaming about my baby and cant seem 2 find the words 2 talk 2 my boyfriend about it. my head is so messed up i cant think strate everytime i try 2 say something i mess it up or i just cant get it out. i cant handle it when people ask me about baby or want 2 talk about it dont feel ready i know its not good 2btl things up but iam just not ready.i was 13weeks pregnant and was really looking forward 2 being a mum again it was,nt a pland pregnancy and after initial shock we were really excited and making plans and thinking of names we named our bump page because i hated keeping calling baby bump.my boyfriend is in the armed services and hav,nt seen him since i lost baby im hoping when i see him it will help.

Is it wrong to find comfort in Reading these comments? I had a miscarriage last may, my due date was last week. And have been Reading forums like this at least once a week. I find myself Reading them only to make myself more upset.
My partner and I allready have 2 children, but he never seems to want to talk about our experience, which fustrates and infuriates me. And my family don't seem to care, as they do not care for the children I allready had. My close friends are all either pregnant or have not long had a child.

I am thankful for the two beautiful healthy children I have. But it feels as if I am not allowed to hurt and can only cry at night when everyone else is asleep.

As silly as this may sound, thanks for listening. Nice just to even write this down. X

i am sorry for all thoughs how have went thrugh a miscarrage.

i had my first miscarage 3 years ago i was 6 months pregnant with twins when they told me at a scan the there was no hart beats both my daughters had died it as the hardest thing to hear then they gave me a pill to take and sent me home with an apointmet to come back in a cupple of days. so i went home but that night i went in to lobour it was as if my boday new. i had to give birth to them and we stayed in the hospital for a cupple of days but i felt i had a chance to say goodbye to them whyle i was there then i had to burrie my beutifel girls and felt like i was going to die of pain i didnt no what to do but my partner was there for me to talk to we got told that it was twin to twin sindrom where on child gets to much blood and the other dosnt get anuff but then a year latter i fell pregnant agen and had a butifell little girl but i sometimes wonder why she survived and the twins didnt but i do love her verry much then at the end of last month i found out i was pregnant agen and i felt relly happy then i started to bleed a week latter so i phoned the hospital and they told me not to worry just treat it like a normal peroid but gave me a scan for a week later and when i went to the scan the told me i had lost the child so i was relly upset and it brought back all the memories from the twins and then the when in a quiet room after the scan the nurse told me that i might be one of those girls how will have a miscarrage a baby a misscarrage a baby and so on and iv been trying to deal with this informatshon and its hard i just dont no how to fell but the one thing that is clear in my mind is that if this baby relly wasnt going to make it into the world then i would have rather lost it when i did rather than 6 months down the line but not that that makes it any easer xx

Hi, over the last 6 months i have visited alot of forums like this on miscarriage and the overwhelming feeling i get from them is that the only people who understand the pain that comes after a miscarriage are those that have suffered themselves....and that these women, us, we are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Crying does not make you weak.

I am 27 and have suffered 3 loses in 6 months. the 1st at 7 1/2 weeks, the 2nd at only 4 1/2 weeks and recently i lost my 3rd at 7 1/2 weeks. I have had numerous scans during the course of my pregnancies/miscarriages but am yet to see any of my babies hearts beating. I have been pregnant 3 times, felt love for 3 little miracles and yet i sit here, today, with nothing but pain to show for it. Some days i think the pain will kill me but i have to believe that some day, hopefully soon, i will feel stronger and be able to accept that these babies weren't ment for this world.

I have read all of the posts on here and a reacurring feeling seems to be that of anger and pain when finding out friends or relations are expecting, especially if they are due when we were. During my last pregnancy my sister annonced that she was pregnant at exactly the same time as me, she is still going strong. I am finding this almost as hard to deal with as the loss itself. My sister is a body double of me and i can see i am going to have to watch all 3 of my pregnancies play out on her. She will get the bump that i never had, she will see the heartbeat that i never saw and she will know the sex of her baby and dispite having loved and lost 3 i will never know whether they were little girls or little boys. I cant offer any advice as to how to deal with this as i have no idea myself. I hope that time, and god and love will one day allow me to be strong enough to find a way to be happy for my sister, and to love her baby, but until then i just have to try to find strength inside myself to get out of bed every day and keep going.

One last tiny bit of advice i can offer is this, if you are strugling to deal with a (or several) miscarriages, do not think that trying again will solve all your problems. This is what i did, i allowed myself minimal time to grieve and just got back into the swing of trying again. I don't believe my body, or mind or heart was ready by the time we concieved number 3, and although i do not believe this is the reason we miscarried, i do believe it has made dealing with it a million times harder as i am now grieving for 3 babies and i am now aware that there may be more ahead of me.

Time will heal, allow yourself that at least.

Love and best wishes to everyone out there suffering this, our time for happiness will come, and when it does it will be all the sweeter xxxxx

I am sorry for your loss i myself feel very alone at the moment i have just had my 4th miscarriage on sunday i was about 7/8 weeks and i am devastated i felt so different this time i thought it was going to be ok, how wrong was i my husband is shutting me out says he finds it hard to grieve as there is nothing there. he just does not seem to understand i just want to end it i cant go through this again. i feel that only now i am being taken seriously by my gp and he is going to refer me to have tests to see if there is a reason i keep miscarrying. i want a baby so much that it hurts but i feel my time is running out.

Hello,
My name is Maria, I am now 39 years old and I am now going through my 3rd Miscarriage. I had my 1st when I was 22 and 13 weeks pregnant, my 2nd was when I was 24 and 6 weeks pregnant. This time around I was between 6 and 10 weeks pregnant (I was waiting for a 'dating scan' to confirm the date of my pregnancy.
I started bleeding Xmas day.......gret timing! I went to the local hospital, they took blood samples and my BP, all was normal. That was all they did, they couldn't do a scan to let me know what was going on as the ultrasound machine was broken in the Gyny ward. I have been reffered to the Ultrasound team and will hoefully have a scan by Tuesday this week.
I am still bleeding and at times am in so much pain in my lower abdomen and back that I cannot stand up. I still feel sick and my breasts still ache just as they did before the MC started. I just want it all to be over now. I am so depressed and miserable I haven't left our flat since coming home from the hospital. I am scared that the rest of the contents of my uterus will come out. I know from passed experience there will be nothing I can do to stop it and it will be awful!

My husband is being very supportive, but he doesn't really understand what I'm going through. He has 5 other children with 3 different women, they all had simple pregnancies. I have been rather short tempered with him, I don't mean to, but 3 out of his 5 kids were accidents, my baby was planned and it has died. Life is so unfair.

The nurse at the A&E dept said "Well at least now you've had 3 miscarriges 'They' will do tests to find out why you keep miscarrying" I know she was trying to make me feel better, but that really doesn't help.

I don't know what to do with myself, I feel awful and just wish I was dead. I am really not coping with this very well at all.

Maria

I’m happy to help lend my support–from the husbands/males perspective. One of the two miscarriages we suffered is still fresh in my memory (although I’ll never forget either) as it happened about a month ago. The facts: The first miscarriage happened more than two years ago (Feb. 2006). We had a healthy boy (now 4) before the first miscarriage and went on to have a second healthy boy (now 16 months) before the second miscarriage. We’re going to try for more still, but want to wait before trying again.

A just want to say first of all how sorry i am to all of u.

i lost my baby in march it was my first pregnacy i was about 7 weeks
when i started bleedin
my mum took me to the hospital who told me to go home and treat it like a period,
my partner didnt want to talk about it and when i got upset all he would say is stop cryin it was my baby to, so a just tryed ot put it at the back of my mind witch work for a while
till a family member fell pregnant and brought it all back, my partner made me feel like i was being silly for cryin,
so when i found out a couple of our friends were expecting i really hit a low, a went to see a relitive who has been here her self and she told me it was normal to feel this way and that my partner woulndnt understand why a felt so low cause yes we both lost it but i had to go though the pysical as well.
the hardest part for me has been the people who were expecting at the same time as me have started having theres, espscilay one girl who also started bleeding at the same time as me but was ok and never lost her baby and i keeping thinking why me???????? I
would have been due in 2 weeks and a find the last month has been the hardest so far, and with my cousin due in 5 weeks and the other just found out she is a think its only goin to get harder. Ano my turn will come one day till then al have to wait.
We have decided to start trying again after xmas and i cant wait but at the same time i dont want try again incase it happens again..

It is hard to find the right words to share my experience, but share I must and right words, well there are never any right words...

April 2008 I had unprotected sex with my partner Andy. We have a lovely little 4year old girl and were thinking about having another baby April didnt seem the right time. so i took the morning after pill, but took it the 3rd day but still in the time limit.

at the end of april i missed my period and went to the dr. she advised take a test and see. i did and found i was expecting. i was delighted and yet felt guilty for taking the pill.the dr. wanted me to go for a scan to see if all was ok as i had taken the pill.

Me and Andy spent most of may attending 4 scans and waiting. the first scaning nurse said because it was so early 5 weeks it was hard to see anything. the 2nd said they saw a sack but it was too small to see inside it. the 3rd scan said the sack had grown but didnt seem to contain a baby, they let us use a quiet room. 5mins later the dr came in and said that a mistake had been made and that it was too still too early for a baby to be clearly visible as they got the dates messed up and there was still hope...

the 4th scan confirmed what at that stage me and andy were expecting but dare not think, there was a sack but no baby. the nurses explained that for some reason i ready for the baby but the baby never came.... although i was reasured it had nothing to do with taking the pill, i believe that is what happened.they offered options to me. i choose surgery as i didnt want to wait for my body to miscarry.

i had an appointment for monday 9th june, the weekend before Me and andy went to london to see the Foo Fighters play in wembley, we had got the tickets 6months before and felt going would take our minds of what was happening...during the day i started getting cramps which got worse and worse... i was bleeding....i was miscarrying at the foo fighters in wembley OMG...

Andy said we should go but i wouldnt leave. i stayed and even though i could bearly stand ( we had seated tickets luckly)and was doubled in pain i stayed. and i am very happy i did, cause the last song that they called NUMB every one including me stood and sung about pain... i found i was releasing all my anger, pain, guilt, sadness, disapointment at the top of my lungs with tears rolling down my cheeks with 50,000 est others in a stadium where i could scream freely to release my emotions and yet it was private just for me....

Andy ask after if i wanted to go to a hospital but i just wanted to go home, so we got the train back to brighton, at home i passed a very large clot... and although i knew i hadnt been carrying a baby i felt it was my lost baby. i went sort of mad with grief i carryed the clot in a cotton bud box outside it was about 4am with some holy water. i dug a tiny hole poured some holy water in it said some sort of prayer and emptyed the clot (my baby) into the hole and buried it. it was outside my bedroom window... i screamed crying and totally gripped with grief... Andy was a rock....

on monday we went to the hospital for our appoiontment told them what had happened over the weekend they scanned me for the 5 and last time and said it was all gone........

i few days later our friends had a baby boy... we met him when he was 3/4 days old nobody was sure what would happen but i felt if i left it it would be harder to see him... i held him. he was so tiny...beautiful.. i kept it together in front of the new mum and dad. but as soon as they left i fell to pieces into andys arms in front of my little 4year old girl. we explained to lucy that mummy was ok just very sad. she gave me a hug and said i love u mummy dont be sad.

i took a week off work, i went through lucys baby clothes it all helped get all the grief out... holding a new baby, burying a clot in place of a baby, going through my daughters baby clothes crying my loss out at full speed, hugging my little girl and my man holding me close. i talked it out with anyone who would listen, it shocked me how many people had had misscariages.

going back to work was hard but good to get back into a routine. a month later i was made redundent job offshored to india.. i focused on getting a new job, which i got at the end of aug, then 3 days into that job i broke my collorbone in a fall. i took 3 weeks off for pain.. now im back at work carrying on..

BUT about 2 weeks ago my boyfriend patted my belly..i looked at him and could see it was an automatic gesture he made. we talked it turns out while i have coped and as far as i tell, feel i have gone through the grieving and have let go... but andy told me that he is finding it harder and harder to cope as it gets closer to when i would have been due.. i was due xmas time. he was strong for me but im unsure how to help him grieve..

im unsure how i will cope on those important dates like due date and when it comes to the anniversey of the miscarriage... but i feel strong... but still i am scared.. part of me wants to try again but part of me fears the fear... At least i have been able to have one baby and she is the world to me...

My heart goes out to all of you who have tried and cried... Bernie

I went back to work for the first time today after having a miscarriage on 16th Sept. Think it was too early found it very difficult. I was 10 weeks pregnant and it came as a massive shock, we had only just told our parents.
The whole process was very traumatic and unfortunately dealt with very 'matter of factly' by the hospital. We had to wait 3 days to have a scan to confirm it and was told by the midwife when i lost the actual baby... "do what you want with it?"
People keep telling me..it wasn't meant to be etc and you can try again. the whole process has frightened me.
I am the manager of a children's nursery which is equally difficult, managed to avoid alot of people today but need to face my fears.
My friend told me it's 'firsts', these are what causes the anxiety, but once you have completed all the firsts you will feel better. Lets hope so?

ICan I first say how sorry I am for all your loss.
I had a miscarriage last week. I was 7/8 weeks. We think the baby was conceived on our wedding night. I had pains in my stomach and then started to bleed. Went for a scan 2 days later and that was it. I feel so out of touch with my feelings. befor the scan I was in bits, crying all the time. Sicne the scan I have hardly cried at all. Its as if it has happened to someone else. Will it all suddenly hit me?? I don;t know what to feel or think anymore. I am scared to even think about tyring again incase the same thing happend. My husband and I wold love children but now the prospect of going through this again terrifys me.

Kx

I had a miscarriage on the Friday 13th June just when I decided to tell everyone. I was 12 weeks pregnant but was told my baby died at 6 weeks. I was told that the pregnancy was not normal (chromsonal defect) that was why i miscarried. The worst part for me was that it happened while I was at work.

My partner has been very supportive and would love for us to try for another baby but I am still grieving.

I find myself looking at this site months and months after i lost my precious baby.
I lost my much wanted baby on October 30th 2007.
my husband and i have been trying to have a baby for 5 years now. we have had 3 treatments of icsi. on the 3rd treatment as we went back to hosiptal to get our embryos back in, i knew instantly we were successful. I wouldnt dare tell anyone of my thoughts incase i jinxed anything but i knew. I felt like a mum from the day we came out of the hospital.
As weeks passed before our pregnancy result was given all we could do is cross our fingers, pray and just hope.
On the day i phoned to hear the result i was in work, i took myself to a quiet room and i heard my wonderful news. me and my fantastic husband were going to be parents. I cried over the phone to the nurse as she told me, then i cried over the phone to my husband. When i phoned him at work mu first words we "how would you like to be a daddy" then both of us just cried and laughed over the phone together. What an amazing day, the happiest day of our lives, the begining of a new venture in our lives and we were so looking forward to it.
We got our confirmation of our pregnancy through the post a few days later with a date for our first scan.
A few weeks had passed and i was looking after myself and my precious cargo.
Then on october 30th my world fell apart. I didnt get to see my baby in a scan, i have nothing to remember my baby apart from a confirmation of my pregnancy letter. Our happiness was so short lived that i feel cheated, robbed, angry, true sadness and empty.
Even now in June 2008 these emotions are not getting any better, yes you have to get on with daily living but in a way as time goes on the emotions are stronger, i am so aware that i am getting closer to the time in which our baby was due to arrive. To me i am still mentally going through a pregnancy (sounds ridiculous) i am counting days, weeks and months. I cry everyday, mostly when i am myself about my broken heart. I used to be a person who was cynical of the "broken heart" phrase but now i truly know what that means because i had a physical pain in my heart that noone else could explain.
At the moment i hate the person i have become, my emotions are all over the place. One minute im laughing with friends, the next im subdued, distant, other times im moaning alot and then im down and crying. I have no control over these emotions. I have unbelievable guilt about trying to get on with life.
For my husband it is different, he hates the thought of me being low and crying so he tries to make things better. I know deep down he is feeling the same loss as me but he doesnt show it because he is scared of hurting me. I love him for that. I love him for what he is and he is too good for me. I hate the thought that i couldnt carry his child after years of trying. He would have made a fantastic dad.
To me i will always be a mother and to my husband he will always be a father, I believe that we will meet our baby again and not a day goes by with me thinking of my precious little one.

hi,
i lost my baby in december at 11 weeks. my due date was the 4th july.i am back at work and i thought i was doing ok....until now. the closer my due date is getting the more the feelings of loss and sadness surround me. i cant help thinking 'i would have 8,7,6 weeks left. when i see a pregnant woman i think that should have been me, why isn't that me? my husband doesn't understand why i am like this and constantly asks whats wrong? why doesn't he know whats wrong? is it only me that feels the loss of our baby? will it ever get any better?

Myself and my partner have been trying for a baby for 4 years, i concieved on the 1st attempt of menopur. I felt over the moon. i felt like my life was finally going where i wanted it to. i had a scare at 5 weeks and 7 1/2 weeks but when we had a scan and saw our babys flickering heartbeat i believed everything was going to be just perfect. I was signed off work so i could rest and carried on living life the happiest woman alive. I was getting so excited for my 12 week scan and couldnt sleep the night before. The day of the scan all our friends and family were phoning and texting wishing us luck. When we went in for the scan we were feeling so positive. i felt pregnant, had a little bump and my boobs were kiling me! but as soon as the sonographer put the scanner on my tummy, i know our precious little baby had lost its fight for life. i felt numb and in shock. To some it was only a fetus, but to us it was our precious baby we had longed so much for.Our baby had died at 10 weeks. i had to make the decision about what to do. i decided to let my body get rid of it naturally but a week later still no sign so was advised to have D & C. That was one of the worst days of my life. having to sign to say you are happy with the procedure of removing my baby from my body. 4 months on and the pain still isnt any easier. i often dream about where would i be now, how big would my bump be. i cant seem to look to the future and some days feel so down i just want to cry. it is important you talk to people sbout your feelings, im only just realising that now. good luck to everyone with trying in the future and sorry for your loss. xx

On New Years eve I had a miscarriage. I was 7 weeks pregnant and after the initial shock (I am 40 years old, my partner 50)I was over the moon. I have been left devastated; constantly cry and feel as if my entire future has been wiped away. I foolishly went a little crazy and shopped, and shopped and shopped... maternity clothes, baby clothes, nursery...
Every day I 'put on a face' and pretend that everything is ok, but I am screaming inside. For periods of time I forget, and then it kicks me so hard that I can hardly breath... I know that it was my last chance and just the thought of not feeling that completeness again is tearing me apart

hi, i lost my baby on the 11th december 07. i was 11 weeks pregnant. i had a d&c the next day.it was my first miscarriage.i had been attending the hospital for scans because they thought i was not as far on as i thought. the baby was very small. on the day of my loss i thought it was just a routine scan so my mother was with me. when the radiographer told me my baby had died i think i died a little too. why? thats all i kept saying. i had no symptoms i felt great no pain no bleedig so why? i was given the choice of letting nature take its course or a d&c. i opted for the op i could not have sat back and waited for my body to decide when to let go of the baby.i had a lot of mixed feelings that day. i wanted the op done there and then cos i didnt want to carry my dead baby any longer,but on the day of the op i didnt want to go because i felt that if it was still inside me then nobody could take it away.it would still be mine. i got no explanation as to why it happened the baby was only 4mm. all they said was it was normal baby tissue and there was no reason for us not to try again.only it took my husband and i ten years to conceive this baby.i have a 14yr old from a previous relationship and my husband has a 21yr and 20yr old from his. he had a vasectomy with his first wife and he had the reversal ten years ago.he has sperm but not many so this was our little miracle baby.i had to be strong for xmas and new year but now its over i cant seem to get myself together.i am due back at work on the 19th jan but i cant face it.i work for a supermarket chain and cant even go to do my shopping without feeling sick.i feel as though our chance for a baby togetherhas came and went and it will never happen again. i feel so empty and alone. i never got the chance to say goodbye and i dont know how i am ever going to get on with my life. my thoughts are with all of you who are greiving for a lost child and thanks for listening x

hi all i wrote in december telling of the 3rd miscarriage i had had.i have now been to see a consultant who has done alot of blood tests to see if there is a underlying reason why this keeps happening to me.she did inform me that there were no chromsonal defects with the last one they also told me that it was a girl i really wish they didnt tell me that as it made it harder to accept.i am just glad that they are now trying to help me.as time passes it gets easier but i still have my bad days when all i want to do is curl up in a ball and cry but i have a good partner who is very supportive and a wonderful little girl who gives me so much joy. i go back to see the consultant on the 26th of march so hopefully they will have some answers and i can start trying again for another baby hopefully with a better outcome loads of love to all of you my thoughts are with you all

Why is it, when you finally admit to yourself that you really need help, you need to talk to someone, you find that all the available "support group" telephone numbers are just constantly engaged or unobtainable? The websites look great and you think this is just what you need, some advice, someone who will understand what you're going through - but they are not there when you really need them. It just adds to the feelings of lonliness and isolation that you already have.

Had D&C on Monday,this is mt second miscarriage in three months,my first miscarriage didn't require D&C,yesterday I felt not bad,today I am an emotional wreck.Can't bare to look or talk to anyone.Have a wee girl who is 6(who knows that something is going on)and if it wasn't for her I don't know how i'd be as since last week on finding out about this miscarriage I feel that I can't let her out of my sight.Going for blood tests tomorrow just to see if there is a problem,and if I'm honest I'm hoping that there is an explanation,it might make it easier to understand why it has happened.I feel so guilty that it has took something like this to happen for me to realise the wonderful things in life I have,like my loving husband and my beautiful daughter whom I am so ever grateful for as there are many couples out there going through the same experiences but without a child already.

hello
not sure what to write, but after reading your stories wnated to share mine, wondered if it would help me to write it down.
i had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago today (had D & C 2 weeks ago) i was 10 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child, i realise from reading your stories that i am lucky to have my beautiful 2 yr old daughter, but i wanted this one too, the thing i am finding hard to deal with is that i had scans at 7,8 and 9 weeks as had been spotting and had right sided pain and on 2/1/7 at 9 weeks had this growing baby inside me, who had grown within normal limits since the prev scan, then on 7/1/7 there was no hearbeat. i finally decided to tell everyone else after the 9 week scan, thinking that everything was going to be fine and then had to tell them all that my baby had died. i had come home from work to sign myself off for a week to rest and take it easy and just sat on the sofa on the friday and saturday, basically having a period and i suppose deep down waiting to miscarry.
i feel alone although i never realised how many people i know who have also been through this, i just want to say to everyone good luck, we want to try again asap.
i feel physically better although terribly empty, my 2 best friends are due this summer too, i just can't get my head sorted or face going back to work yet.
thinking of you all
kelly x

Had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, in August and it was my first pregnancy. Time does heal, however am desperate get pregnant again, how long should i leave it? Awful day today as period came and received a xmas card telling me an old friend is pregnant and due the same time I would have been, has opened wounds.

Hi to anyone who is reading this but it has been just under a week since i went to have a d&c. i was 9 weeks pregnant and was told that my babys heart had stopped beating .at 7 weeks i started bleeding had a scan which confirmed everything was fine to later be told at a 9 week scan that the pregnancy was no longer viable which came as a compleate shock i was heartbroken as this is my 3rd miscarriage. one thing i have to be thankful for is the fact that i have a beautiful 4 year old daughter who keeps my spirits up when im feeling low.so to anyone who has gone through the same my thoughts are with you.

I wrote my first message more than a month ago. to be specific it was 10-6-06 I feel better emotionally but the emptiness hasn't gone away. At work there area about five ladies pregnant and I was the sixth one of the group. All will be due around the same time but me. It hurst everytime I think about it but God has been my healer and has straightened my faith. He has his own reasons and one thing that I learned with my experience is that sometimes we need to go throug trial and experiences in order to help and understand other people. I have talked to more than three women who had experienced a miscarriage and for some reason didnt have the time, support or whatever it took to grief. I was able to help them. I was able to listen and understand their pain because I too had been in their shoes. Trully, I don't know why this happended to me but I know that those women see life in a different way. It still hurts but knowing that my little angel is watching over my daughter, my husband and myself makes me at ease. Confort? no one really knows how to confort someone who has gone through this experience except for those who knows what it feels. I know that time is the only healer and I also know that it wa better for us to cry now than to cry for the rest of our lifes seen a sick baby and been unable to help him/her. For those women who have gone trough a miscarriage all I can say is "Rest your worries and pains in GOD" and let him heal you with is mighty power. God bless everyone.

I've just got back from the hospital after being told i have had my third miscarriage. I was 8 weeks pregnant but the baby was only the size of 5 weeks. I'm mortified, the exact same thing happened to me in May this year, exactly same pregnancy week, exactly same baby size and i also had a miscarriage 4 years ago at 10 weeks. My mom keeps telling me to pull myself together and try again but now after 3 times i'm losing the will to keep trying cause of the heartache it is causing. Me and my partner both have children from previous relationships, mine is a 6year old boy and i thank god that i have him cause he is the one that pulls me through my miscarriages just looking at his little face, but me and my partner desperatly want a baby together. At the moment i'm that upset i really don't know where to turn i just wanna lay down and cry and cry but i know that if i do i won't stop crying.
My heart goes out to all parents who are going through this or have been through it in the past cause no matter what people say the pain eventually gets easier but you never ever forget.

Sam x

I've been typing and deleting as I just dont know what to write. I have just come back from hospital after having an abrupt placenta at 21 weeks. No signs nothing previously - went into work as normal, and felt a huge gush and that was it - I am absolutely devastated. This is my 3rd miscarriage now from 5 IVF attempts. I have a little boy to which now Im so grateful for, but i just cant help thinking why me and not someone who isnt grateful enough to deserve a child...?? My husband has been brilliant but I am just dereading meeting everyone as I cant stop crying. My best friend and neighbour is pregnant and that really doesnt help.

We were able to see him and say goodbye which I thought might help, but he looked so perfect,in a way I now blame myself coz he looks fine? I guess i was lucky becasue I did lose 8 litres of blood andit was either the baby or me - maybe that helps my husband put thingsinto perseptvie,but as I wasnt really with it? I guess Imobliviousto this.

The hospital were good in that i stayed out of the ward,even though and I know, I had to be on the labour ward,andI know I should be grateful enough I have one already,i suppose i thought writing into words how i feel might make things btter?

Im sorry for going on,and myheart is with everyone going through this, becasue I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. Thanks for listening,it is reassuring these things are common - jen x